Boys in Distress

The fall behind boys
are growing in numbers
frustrated eunuchs
with purple cucumbers

Lacking in power
in fear of the shun
they take a shellacking
then reach for the gun

Incels with barbells
yell loudly on twitter
can’t find a female
frustrated and bitter

Cut from the same cloth
they whine and complain
like pigs at blame-trough
or moths to the flame

Conspiracy prone
they villainize Soros
Batmans and Robins
Green Hornets and Zorros

Glued to their iPhone
addicted to porn
scaling the hills
in the valley of scorn

Blue balls in brown shirts
they lace up their boots
tiki torch toddlers
give Nazi salutes

A lost generation
of men who are boys
fearful of women
afraid to make noise

We sit on the sideline
and watch it unfurl
struggling young men
afraid of the girl

How can we help them
these boys in distress
trapped in a world
of inadequateness

Connectionless

Facebook and Snapchat

YouTube and Tik Tok

Lost boys on Reddit

Black sheep

from the same flock


Millions of followers

with no one to lead

a whole generation’s

collective brain bleed


Communally living

in woke echo chambers

dimwitted dice-throwing

zombie-like gamers

Vid links and jpegs

the shallow and vain

everyone jumps on

the “look at me!” train


Looking for meaning

in meaningless places

we screen-scroll bikinis

and beautiful faces

With eyes gazing downward

we all barely see

 the world of the living

our humanity


More connected than ever

yet still isolated

we’re captive less active

we’re chained and we’re gated

Networked in sorrow

we borrow from pain

we search for tomorrow

with nothing to gain


We touch screens and tap links

but don’t touch each other

we sniff around porn sites

for sexy stepmothers

Adrift in the wireless

we’re glued to the cam

tireless voyeurs

we wolve for the lamb

Why I broke up with Facebook

You might have some real friends on Facebook. But Facebook isn’t one of them.

Facebook and Instagram use artificial intelligence and algorithms to learn our views on race, identity, religion, and politics. They don’t ask us directly about our views or interact with us in a meaningful way. Instead, they collect data from what we share, like, comment on, and engage with on their platform.

They analyze the data and come up with a profile of me and you (conservative, male, Republican, pro-life or liberal, female, Democrat, pro-choice). Based on that profile, they determine what content to send us. The content they send us reinforces our views, solidifies our attitudes, and affirms our opinions.

Facebook knows which content pulls us in and which content we breeze over.

Facebook knows what we like, who we like, and with whom we like to share. 

What’s the danger in that? 

What’s the danger of analyzing and understanding our behavior and then delivering content based on that understanding? 

Isn’t that a good thing?

No, it is not.

And here’s why.

We share more about ourselves with data scientists at Facebook than with our priests in the confessional. 

But the priest (in theory) wants to counsel and help us. Facebook wants to use us.

To Facebook, we are a commodity. And when you’re a commodity on a technology platform with a data-driven business model, you’re prone to exploitation and manipulation by powerful and self-serving individuals and institutions. 

Facebook and Instagram are conduits for misinformation and lies. We saw this in real-time with the Big Lie about a stolen election.

We felt it with the fire hose of misinformation about COVID-19 and the COVID-19 vaccine.

The people who consumed and bought into those lies are lost—perhaps forever. Tragically, they’re part of a growing community of people who believe in misinformation. As humans, we long for a sense of community—more so, it seems, than truth.  

Mark Zuckerberg and the other executives who launched Facebook did not have bad intentions. They had a business model and the technology to make that business model successful.

What they should have accounted for was the consequence of their success. 

Categorized and codified by cold-calculated algorithms, Facebook incentivizes our human desire to be with people who share our views while fueling our dislike of those who don’t.

Because of Facebook, our society is more divided, less trustful, and has more built-up animus than ever before. 

We see the unintended consequences of technology and human nature smashing into one another.

That’s why I broke up with Facebook.

For me, the detriments far outweigh the benefits – it’s scary because sometimes I think the best and only way to fight misinformation is to counter it with truth.

If lies and misinformation can spread fast on FB, why not use that platform to spread the truth? 

Many of us buy into that argument.

So, we get caught up in this endless battle with others. We live for hours at a time in an environment of constant combat and argument—we look for mistruths, engage the enemy, and fight the fight.

Post-to-Post combat. 

Blood pressures rise.

Friendships get wrecked.

Family members are disowned.

Nothing gets solved. We just become agitated at those who don’t share our views.

We willfully retreat to our camps, losing empathy, trust, and any sense of what holds us together as a country and a society.

We lose our ability to compromise and discuss coherently and intelligently with whom we disagree.

Facebook is toxic, destructive, and a danger to society.

We should turn away from it en masse.